Life throws some unexpected curve-balls at us sometimes. We have all been there: loss of job, ending of a relationship, facing death of a loved one. These situations can be extremely overwhelming and stressful.
Here are my 4 proven top tips that have really helped me navigating stressful situations.
1. Implement a self-care routine
I think by now everyone knows this but does not necessarily act on it. It is important to implement a self-care routine that incorporates work on the mind, the body and spirit AND stick to it even when you feel good.
It is all about balance and these 3 aspects need the same amount of attention (imagine being at the center of a triangle. if you put too much attention on one side and neglect the other, the shape gets distorted)
Move your body or exercise regularly (walk in nature, yoga, swimming in ocean).
Choose what you put in your body mindfully. Notice how you feel after eating certain food (do you feel energised? or drained?, then practice removing the ones that don't agree with you and see how things change).
Practice meditation, relaxation or sit in silence and just check-in.
Note: TV is not something I add in "relaxation. When you watch TV or anything on screen your mind is still absorbing content so it doesn't allow times for your day to be processed. Hence you go to bed and you cannot fall asleep because all these thoughts come up that have not been addressed.
I personally watch no TV and perhaps one movie a week. I often find movies, mainstream news or TV shows are not reflecting the reality or values that I want to be perpetuating in the future (fear based, dividing, violent)... lots more can be said here but that is for another time.
2. Feel your feelings
We tend to be afraid to allow our emotions to be felt, afraid of being vulnerable. That if we do allow them they will be so overwhelming that they will crush us apart. But the more we repress the more our body is finding ways to communicate with us through pain and disease.
Allow feelings to be felt.
How does it feel? What is the feeling? Name it if you can (there are often many arising at a time and it will bring ease and clarity to name them all).
Use you breath to move through through the feelings and chaos. Our breath is our anchor. (e-motions = energy in motion)
3. Look at "lessons"
As humans, we experience life through duality: good vs bad, right vs wrong, darkness vs light, happy vs sad etc...
The truth is when taking a higher perspective/distance with our daily events and look at the "lessons" we can start seeing a whole new reality. What perhaps you had considered bad may turn out to be for good.
For example someone losing their job which then finally led them to have the courage to start their own business. Sometimes sad events brings people and communities closer together.
Observe the meaning you assign to things, is this meaning serving you?
Ask yourself: "If this happened, it means..." (e.g I am unlucky, I am failure, I will never be successful, I will be alone forever...).
Practice reframing these limiting beliefs and ask what is the big picture here? What am I called to address? What is my opportunity for growth? What fear do I need to transcend? How can I be more authentic and aligned with my soul/ true essence?
Often things will keep repeating until these lessons are understood and integrated.
4. Surround yourself with supportive people (friends or family) people that actually and genuinely care about you. We are social creatures and it helps to share our deepest thoughts and be able to be ourselves around people.
I 'd love to know what extra tips you would add on this list and what has really made a difference for you.