Kinesiology for relationships

  • Do you find yourself attracting the wrong relationships in your life?

  • Do you find yourself pushing people away?

  • Do you find it hard to let go of past hurt and trauma and it is affecting your relationship?

  • Are you compromising everything about yourself to make your relationship work?

  • Do you tend to lose yourself in relationships?

  • Do you find yourself attracting the wrong relationships in your life?

  • Do you find yourself pushing people away?

  • Do you find it hard to let go of past hurt and trauma and it is affecting your relationship(s)?

  • Do you find it hard to express feelings or show vulnerability?

  • Do you find it difficult to leave a toxic relationship?

  • Do you find yourself overwhelmed or worry about the possibility of being rejected, abandoned?

  • Are you having difficulties with intimacy?

Would you like to reconnect with YOU and bring more joy and ease in your relationships?

When having a series of relationships with the same theme, you may want to ask yourself “what

is the common element between these relationships?” If the answer is “yourself” then it may be time to shake old behaviour and regain control over the situation.

Using Kinesiology, I can help you recognise limiting beliefs, projection and blame patterns that may be playing out when responding to the other person. You will gain an understanding about what it says about you and your relationship with yourself.

We can also work with clearing fears and past traumas that may still be in the way of current relationships.

Projection in relationships is a very subtle form of sabotage. It involves subconsciously taking attributes, thoughts and emotions or feelings we have about ourselves (usually painful feelings) and imagining or projecting them on other people, rather than admitting to or dealing with the unwanted feelings.

For example, if you subconsciously worry that you aren’t raising your child properly then you may point out other poorly behaved children and judge their parents as wrong or inadequate.

Another example, if subconsciously you believe you are not good enough, then you may point out or feel very frustrated every time your partner or other relationship in your life may make a mistake and be very highly demanding of that person.

Believing someone “hates us” is often a result of projection. If we have a strong dislike for someone in the first place it is common for us to protect ourselves against this feeling by projecting it onto another.

Blame is another form of projection. It is whereby you don’t recognise that the responsibility for your happiness and wellbeing lies within you so it never gets resolved. Therefore you need to find a way to manage the unresolved feelings and seek out others on whom you can lay blame and therefore responsibility.

For example you may blame a partner who is unsupportive or a parent for the way they have raised you.

Of course, situations such as serious betrayal are more complicated and put us in a situation where we need to discern what’s best for us.

The pay-off of blaming someone for how you feel is that by doing so we give our power to external factors that we cannot control. Without power no true change can occur.

One needs to recognise that people don’t treat us better than we treat ourselves.

Changing how we relate to ourselves will change how people respond and relate to us and our perception of them. The reality is we can only love, accept, nurture…one person to the extent we are able to love, accept, nurture ourselves.

Addressing our own needs rather than seeking them to be met externally and honouring the responsibility for how we feel will result in feeling more secure and confident, help attracting and building equally loving relationship and bring clarity when faced with difficult choices.


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